Relationships are indeed difficult and are at times tricky to deal with. Throw in some distance and we are in a much tough spot right there! Although everyone is aware that long distance relationships are challenging, what does this actually entail? What are the most prevalent and serious issues that arise in long distance relationships? Are most long distance relationships destined to fail or can they be saved?
One of the things that kill long-distance relationships is the constant underlying uncertainty of everything. The painful feeling that your heart is being slowly removed from your chest by a butter knife and replaced with inadequate Skype conversations and flashing chat windows can definitely be a very excruciating problem. While in long distance, you often establish rules stating how many calls you make or how often you both may speak. You may find quite a number of people that advocate this behaviour. This strategy might be effective for some people, but it’s always believed that communication between a couple should develop naturally. Instead of speaking to one another out of obligation, you should do it whenever you feel like it. And if doing so necessitates a brief break in communication, then be it. After all, people have busy lives. And occasionally taking a few days off is actually quite healthy.
Actually, in case of long distance relationships, you may as well change the proverb “absence makes the heart grow fonder” to absence makes the heart an absolute psychotic! Ultimately, it’s crucial to keep some skepticism towards your own feelings when you’re caught in a long-distance situation. Remind yourself that you truly have no idea what is going on and that talking to your spouse or partner about how you both feel at any given time is the greatest thing you can do.
Well, this is from our side for now but if you are looking for extended help, support and counselling, we at Mindful Heart are much happy to help. Reach out to us and we can talk it out..