Sometimes, you could feel perplexed and unclear of what to do if you love someone who in turn abuses you, may it be physical or mental.
People around you might enquire, “Why don’t you just leave?” But you might not think this choice is as clear-cut as you do. There are strong emotions present, in addition to other elements. While waiting, you can be thinking about other things and worrying about things, such as what if they change? What if you were at fault? What if love is all about this?
Dear reader, to feel this way is normal and common.
Numerous people report being abused by a romantic or intimate relationship each year. Anyone can be susceptible to it, and if it occurs to you, you are not to blame. But nonetheless, it is possible to love someone who has abused you, and it is also possible to end the relationship in spite of such emotions for your own good.
Any form of violent behavior may it be physical, sexual, or psychological between intimate partners may be referred to as abuse in a love relationship. This may involve actions like stalking, threatening, using violence both physical and verbal to humiliate another person, controlling their finances, and engaging in other such controlling behaviours. People of all genders, ages, and ethnicities may experience this, and it can happen in all kinds of personal relationships that are either sexually or emotionally charged.
You can be conflicted, uncertain, scared, and torn if you’re attempting to determine whether to stay or leave. Maybe you’re still holding out hope that things will get better or you’re worried about how your spouse will react if they find out you’re attempting to leave. You might feel compelled to leave one second, then desire to cling to the connection the next. Perhaps you may even hold yourself accountable for the abuse or feel helpless and ashamed for sticking around despite it. The advice here is not let uncertainty, regret, or blame keep you captive as ultimately your safety is the only thing that counts.
Getting out of an abusive relationship isn’t easy, but you deserve to live free of fear. Intimate abuse and violence leave lasting scars and thus, the trauma of what you’ve gone through might affect you for a very long time. However, you can process your experiences and learn how to form new, healthy relationships with the aid of counselling, therapy, and support groups.
We at Mindful Heart have a no-tolerance policy for abuse and therefore, we shall always be happy to help you provide the correct support and guidance.