No matter how strong a couple’s relationship is, there will inevitably be some arguments. And these odd arguments are usually not a big issue. However, it’s only reasonable to question “How much fighting is too much” when you find yourself quarrelling more than normal and ask ourselves “Are we really screwed up?”
Before we panic and assume our relationship is ruined because they fought twice last week, remember this: There is no one proper answer to the question of how often to have disagreements, and there is no one approach to resolve disagreements that works for all marriages.
Studies say that breaking free from the notion that our partner is there to fulfil our needs can be something that helps. It is likely that we may have some fantasies of the sort. Hence, finding out what bothers us, what went wrong, and how to make it right now and in the future rather than blaming others during disagreements is the key.
It is clear that marital discord needs to be handled effectively and promptly. But the question of how is still relevant. There are surprisingly few marriages where the partners swear they never argue. Even if these petty, accidental disagreements happen frequently throughout a marriage, poisonous fights that involve violence and abusive behaviour are bad for both the couple and their families. Moreover, children in such a household also end up taking the most hit from everything.
Conversely, family therapy techniques go a long way in ensuring better harmony among the parents themselves and also their children. These help them to come together, resolve disagreements, speak up their mind, put forth their opinion. These may consist of a wide range of therapeutic interventions. Some of the key ones are CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy), Play Therapy, Family Therapy, etc. which ensures that proper behavioral patterns, positive thinking, a productive perspective on life are instilled to reduce such family discord.